Hey guys! I have news. I'm quitting the blog.
APRIL FOOLS!!!!
I probably didn't get you but whatever. I have a different type of news that isn't a joke.
My dad is working with a lady who has two kids, and both of them were bullied in high school. So was their mom. She told my dad that her son said something along the lines of, "Bullying drains your self-confidence, and with a low self-confidence, you're an easy target for more bullies." I totally agree with this.
This is where self defense comes in. Recently I took a self defense class that was honestly kind of emotional but at the same time was very helpful and informational. The program has an acronym for what to do in a threatening circumstance: ADD. It stands for avoid, dissuade, and devastate. That sound really technically and harmful, but it actually isn't.
First off, avoid. This means be aware of your surroundings and keep an eye out for suspicious characters. Pretty easy. Next is dissuade. This means, and I quote, "Dissuade any potential aggressor, if possible with verbal and body language skills--according to the scenario before you, both neutral and dominant." So, without actually touching the "bad guy," get him or her to stop bothering you. By the way, dominant means warning signs and survival mechanisms, like what dogs do when they're fighting each other. Neutral means act naturally to put the bad guy at ease.
Some techniques for dissuading are simple. First off, when someone who is possibly a threat stops to talk to you, immediatley shift onto one hip. You need to put one foot back and have most of your weight on your back leg. This is already natural for me, but I've noticed a lot of people put their feet together and slump. You need to look confident when you're walking around. Also, clasp your hands in front of your chest. Don't twine your fingers together. Secondly, for the "invisible fence," when the bad guy won't bak off, put your back foot forward and put your hands up in front of you. When you put the invisible fence up, you can, sometimes should, shout, "BACK OFF!!!!!!!" Scream it at the top of your lungs. "Back off" isn't the only thing you could scream. As long as what you say and "back off" are pretty similar in definition, you're set.
Dissuading is what I suggest when a bully confronts you. The packet I'm reading from even says, "...most people do not to fight, not even the guy with the loud bark who has a tendency to confront people." Please, as I have said before, do NOT be physical with your bully. I'm confident that anyone can get a bully to back off without getting physical.
So, the second D does stand for devastate, so I'm going to go throught the cautions for devastating but ONLY FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES. Devastating is when you strike purposefully at your attacker in sensitive areas, like the eyes, ears, throat, neck, jaw, and groin. The packet again says, "Remember, this is for the worst case scenario and your life is in danger." I know that some boys and possibly some girls like to pretend they are ninjas, and there's nothing wrong with that, but if you attempt to use your ninja skills to take out your attacker, it probably won't work. This is only because when there's adrenaline coursing through your body, you aren't going to remember technique.
I'm backtracking for a minute. If you want to learn how to walk confidently, just follow these instructions. Straight back like you've got a yard stick in your pants and you're trying to flatten your back to it. Shoulders back with your shoulder blades on either side of the yard stick. Smile. Not like a maniac but like a pleasant person who is somewhat sane. Lastly, don't drag your feet. Pick them up off the ground so you can't hear them scraping on the ground. I'm going to attatch a from a YouTube show called Good Mythical Morning about walking confidently.
I know this a long post again, but thanks for sticking with me. Like I said last post, I'm trying to improve my blog, so stay tuned. I am going to post later this month, maybe around the 11th.
See you later,
Maya
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I made this blog for a reasonAnd that reason was to help kids of all ages stop their bullies, or to help the movement against bullying, because I believe that every kid has the right to a safe, happy learning environment.
AuthorI'm Maya, an ordinary 7th grader who had to go through some extraordinary changes in friends and foes. Archives
August 2015
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