How Would YOU Stand up to your bully?
IF YOU CHOSE THE FIRST BUTTON, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW: I get it that you're scared of these kids, but you need to do something about them.They should not get away with what they're doing, they're bullying you. I understand that you scared by these kids and you need to practice standing up to them, so take it in steps. Here are the steps you could take:
1) When they do something to you again, go tell an adult right away. 2) If they do it again, say something to them, like, 'That's not very nice,' then go tell an adult. 3) If they do it again, say something a bit more powerful, like "Lay off!" Remember to keep it sort and sweet (ish). Remember: NEVER, I repeat, NEVER get physical with them, but never shy away or else they might think you're weak, which I'm sure you aren't. |
IF YOU CHOSE THE SECOND BUTTON, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW: You need to pick a less violent button. If you punch your bully in the face, you're probably going to get suspended, you should choose your button again. You should NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, get physical with your bully. Anyway, if you do punch you bully, then they're probably gong to punch you back, which you don't want. Here's a list of steps you can take to tone down your comeback:
1) Start by by keeping your hands behind your back when you perform your comeback. Don't say anything too rude, say something more like, 'Like that means anything,' or, 'Lay off!" Remember to keep it short and sweet (ish). 2) When you still feel like getting physical, you can punch your pillow as an outlet. Also, you can draw or print out a picture of your bully, tape it to a stone wall or a fence, and throw rocks at the picture. Remember: NEVER, I repeat, NEVER, get physical with your bullies. |
IF YOU CHOSE THE THIRD BUTTON, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW: Great job, you're almost there! There's only one problem: the bullies might think they got you! You need to start coming up with clever comebacks. That way, the bullies will think that you aren't scared of them and that they can't hurt you. Don't let them scare you, or at least don't let your fear come through. In Lady Gaga's "Poker Face", the lyrics go: "Can you read my, can you read my, no you can't read my poker face", as in don't let the bullies see your emotions in your facial expressions or the way you act. They'll think your strong and they can't hurt you, so keep on that poker face!
Just remember that eventually you need to let your feelings out, or you might let them off in a negative way or in a way you don't mean to. |
IF YOU CHOSE THE FOURTH BUTTON, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW: Keep up the good work! you are doing exactly what you need to do. Just remember that there are TONS of comebacks to use, and you shouldn't always use the same one, or you'll look scared to the bully. You are strong, and you want the bully to know it! If you're having trouble coming up with good comebacks that will catch your bully off guard, talk with your mom, dad, big sister, neighbor, or cousins, aunt, uncle, or grandparents about clever comebacks. You might want to talk to someone who you trust with personal information and maybe also to someone who has been bullied. I talked to my mom every night about what had happened at school whether or not any of the six bullied me. Tell your family about EVERYTHING that happens with the bully, whether it's snickering (not the candy bar, I mean laughing), whispering, insults, sass talk, or physical, non-verbal actions (like leaving trash in your space). Tell these bullies the truth. You could even say, "You're bullying me, and you need to stop." Do not be afraid to even agree with them (of course you don't, but still, it catches them off-guard.) For example, if they say, "You're dumb," you could say, "Ya, but I'm good at it."(Get it, it's like you're good at being dumb). When a bully insults you like that, remember that you are strong, and you can beat this bully.
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CLEVER COMEBACKS, AT YOUR SERVICE...
If your bully says,"_________," you could say, "__________".
If your bully says,"_________," you could say, "__________".
Bully: "You're dumb." You: "Ya, but I'm good at it."
Bully: "Pick up my trash." You: "No. I won't do anything for you." And just walk away.
Bully: "Who would wear that/those _______ (shirt, dress, shorts, pants, headband, etc., etc.)?" You: "Me." Or you could say: "Me, and lay off."
If your bully is whispering or spreading rumors about you, you should tell an adult as soon as you see/hear them spreading the rumors/whispering. As soon as an adult knows, you should go up and confront them [the bully] with a really strong comeback like, "I saw you spreading rumors, you'd better stop it." But remember NEVER to threaten you're bully. If they ask "Or what?", just walk away.
If your bully seems do be doing things behind your back, and you catch him/her in the act, start yelling, really loud. When a teacher comes over asking you to be quiet, and why you're being so loud, say, "He/she's been bullying me and (this is an example) putting trash in my locker, and I found him/her right in front of my locker, when her locker is way down there." Remember that you don't have to keep it sort with a teacher, just keep it sweet! 😀
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